People base their opinions on assumptions that they unconsciously run through internal, personal “filters”. And that is absolutely fine, we all have our own opinions, assumptions and assertions. The problem occurs when we think that nothing can be handled without our involvement or when we think we know it all and assuming a position of dominance. We share unsolicited advises and do underestimate other people’s capabilities and skills. Why? Because people just can’t do their job. I guess this behavior of lacking consideration for others and a showoff can be summarized in one word – a jerk.
Some of these “species” inhabit the workplace. And that can be a tricky situation. For five days a week you are destined to witness this co-worker’s “glory” and how he/she saves the day. It is especially tiresome if a jerk poses excessive assertiveness. The most important thing in this situation is not to lose a good side of yourself.
You are at the great risk of emotional suffering and …Oh, NO! Turning into, yourself.
Because temptation to complain, gossip or rant would try to crawl inside your innocent, beautiful soul. “That tight feeling has the power to hook us into self-denigration, blame, anger, jealousy and other emotions which lead to words and actions that end up poisoning us,” writes Pema Chödrön.
Someone suggested to me that people may be simply unaware of their acts and they are not trying to be jerks. Probably, they do not have in mind such intention. I agree with that. Sure these people are not trying to be difficult… They just ARE.
There are couple of suggestions how we can survive the donkey and other type of asses invasion. I personally apply humor, although sometimes you want to cry. But then again smile, have a little talk with a nice, friendly colleague that may help you to calm these negative emotions down.
I also try to tell myself that there is no time to engage in rumors and spreading gossip in the workplace. We are at work, so I try to focus on it. In addition being busy helps to divert my attention.
Some websites suggest to take care of yourself: be calm and try meditation. I personally enjoy listening comedy radio programs or jokes on iHeartRadio App. Taking classes at Metro State and meeting new people is helpful as well. With many classes offered at university you are exposed to social, global issues and that awareness definitely makes your head think differently and reduces the importance of the unpleasant situation at workplace.
You could also get involved in your “C” by volunteering. There are tons of different causes and organizations that can benefit from your help. Contribute to making a positive difference, lessen the suffering of others and it will help you see butterflies and less asses in life and workplace.
On a side note, my apologies for using this sign instead of writing a word. This is selfish of me to put this vulgarity in your head, make you pronounce it in your head without me taking the responsibility to say it myself. Sorry, it was not my intention to be a jerk.