I’m standing in line and I can hear the clerk ask the person ahead if they would like to donate to some cause. I immediately started to think of what I will do. Then, what will others think of me if I say, “no”?
I then start to rationalize why it’s alright to say “no”:
“I always give; it may not be to this specific organization. But I give when I can.”
“I’m not a bad person. I just do not want to donate a pound of coffee every time I want to buy a cup of coffee for myself.”
“I do not need to feel bad. Just say “no” and act like your not even paying attention.”
Being asked to donate at the checkout register feels like I’m being put on the spot. Am I evil if I say “no”? Good Scout did a survey and 55 percent of people liked being asked to donate at the register. But 35 percent did it because they felt guilty.
I shouldn’t give because I feel guilty. I should give because I have compassion for others and want to support good charities. I also want to know about the actual organization and how are they spending the donation money.
It’s hard not to follow the pack and say “no”. But the next time your at the register, will you donate because you want to or because you feel like you have to?
There is a blog post at MultipleMayhemMamma.com, its about transparency and being pressured into giving at the register. These are two great reasons why we do not need to feel guilty about saying “no” at the register.
I think it’s alright to question even when we are giving to charities. Look at how the Wounded Warrior Project is using their donation funds for lavish spending.