I woke up this morning and did what I always do; which is go on my Google News App and read up on anything that happened over night.
I saw the headline, “Man facing groping charge after flight: Trump “says it’s OK to grab women by their private parts”, and I honestly thought it was fake. Is it Aril Fools Day? Oh, that’s right, It’s October!
Here’s the gist of the article I read: This guy, Bruce Alexander, groped a woman’s breast TWICE while sitting behind her on a flight. The woman assumed the first unwanted touch was an accident (okay, what?) and then got upset when It happened again. She yelled at him and asked to be moved to another seat. When the flight landed, Bruce Alexander was apprehended by police. This is what Alexander told the officers in defense of his actions:
“The President of The United States says it’s OK to grab women by their private parts.”
I really am at a loss for words. Or I was. I was reminded of another in-flight situation from just a few days ago. The flight actually had to make an emergency landing! Some guy was touching his seat neighbor and tried to play “footsie” with her. She moved seats and he approached her again. Then he started yelling at her and at the flight attendants and because they feared for their safety, the flight landed. Thankfully, he did not try to use Trump’s views on women as a defense for his gross and creepy actions.
This also reminds me of the way some men reacted and continue to react to the #Metoo movement. As more women and men are opening up about their own sexual assault/harassment survival stories, more men are being arrested and held accountable for their actions. This is a good thing. People sometimes ask, “Well, why didn’t she report it right away?” Well, to those people I would like to
slap them in the face point out how uncomfortable it is for someone to admit to being a victim let alone talk about it out loud. People might not believe them, or they do, but then they have to keep talking about it over and over, or maybe sexual harassment is so common place that, until this year, it wasn’t taken seriously.
I can’t tell you how many times my friends and myself were out at a bar and some guy grabbed one of our butts or said something completely inappropriate to one of us. We used to just keep on with our night, hoping that the guy will take a hint. Not anymore baby! We will call you out on it and we will report your actions.
Then we have the whole “Scary time for men” thing. I’m sorry. But if you (men, I’m talking to you; and I know- #notallmen) think that your actions or words might be misconstrued as harassment, then maybe you should do some reflecting. I am not usually scared to walk alone at night, nor do I assume every guy has bad intentions. But I have been scared of men and I have carried pepper spray with me. I have pretended to be on the phone while walking alone and If a guy is walking alone behind me, I do slow down to let him in front of me. It’s not something I constantly think about, but I do feel unsafe sometimes. And that is nothing compared to how many women around the country feel. I leave you with this
funny sad song: