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About Codi

I am a Veteran, K9 Masseuse and a Mascot.

Lucky vs. Freak

Let’s talk Double Standards. By definition a double standard is a rule or principle which is unfairly applied in different ways to different people or groups. That is a pretty straight forward concept. We have all heard the phrase “what is good for the goose, should be good for the gander.” Well that means that both the male and the female of the species should be treated the same. We all know that isn’t the case in many of life’s little scenarios, but let’s just focus on one to keep the conversation simple… SPORTS.

Olympic Committee Guidelines have to be the most detailed, ordered, strict and contested set of rules on the planet. There is a rule for EVERYTHING! One thing is pretty clear though, taking performance enhancing drugs is a pretty big no no. This is called doping. You can’t put anything synthetic in your body that might give you an edge over another competitor. It is kind of a no brainer. But what if you were born with more of one chemical or less of another in your body that gives you an edge? Should you be required to suppress it or increase it chemically in order to put you in line with your competitors? Well let me pose this question ….  

Why is Caster Semenya being asked to suppress her NATURALLY produced testosterone, when Michael Phelps isn’t being asked to increase his NATURAL lack of lactic acid?

Yes I realize this is not a perfect example due to the fact that lactic acid isn’t considered a performance enhancing drug in the world of sports, nor is the lack of it a dis-qualifier. However, the fact that it has been scientifically proven that his body produces only half the lactic acid that his rivals need to handle, he is at a place of advantage due to his specific genetics. So… if you are gonna call out one, you gotta call out the other. Or better yet… just let them BOTH COMPETE AS THEY ARE! Quit trying to dictate and control what women’s bodies should conform to.

Women’s Sports are Still Largely Ignored by Mainstream Media

Why don’t people care more about women’s sports? If you know a girl or woman who has played a sport, and you have followed their progress possibly into a college, semipro or professional career you are probably well versed on what social media platforms and what obscure cable networks to tune into to keep up to date. However, the average Jane or Joe hasn’t got a clue that 90% of the women’s sports clubs even exist let alone know that they could follow them, or even watch them on the boob tube! Here is the problem. Women’s sports don’t even get their schedules posted on local news networks, so it is a completely ignored market. Boys High School Prep Sports fill the gaps in air time between men’s league seasons, so women Pro teams don’t even get a shot when they play during the off seasons of mainstream men’s leagues.

“A 20-year study of network and cable by USC & Purdue sociologists find men take 96% of sports news in 2009. Even the ESPN Ticker gives women the short shrift – 96.4 percent of the information scrolling along the bottom of the screen was dedicated to only men’s sports.” The finding is part of a 20-year study of sports coverage released today by University of Southern California sociologist Mike Messner and Purdue University sociologist Cheryl Cooky.

In 2010, ESPN seemingly in response to the research mentioned above, thought they had a good answer… they launched espnW… a digital presence for women, where its all-women’s sports all the time. In theory it is a wonderful idea, and if it was only “the thought that counts” they would have won a trophy for their effort. Here is the problem, it keeps women’s sports out of the mainstream media, away from the mass public that are the primary consumers of sport. If the only ones that are going to look at your website are the ones that already know you are there your numbers are NEVER going to grow organically.

If women’s sports were given just a fraction of the airtime that men receive the difference it would make for women’s clubs would be phenomenal. Instead we not only have every men’s game imaginable available to us, all year round, we get talking heads analyzing every fart and jersey movement of every player on and off the field and how it is going to affect their multi-million-dollar deal. You have to do an extensive internet digging expedition to find highlights of the Women’s World Cup Soccer Match, but you can’t stop seeing every run, score, touchdown or goal from every men’s or boys’ game that happened be playing that night before.

Women play sports for the love of the game, not the money or the fame or the glory. (OBVIOUSLY!) We are just starting to see some progress when in comes too equal pay for women in sports since the USWNT sued US Soccer for gender discrimination beginning as far back as 2016 (which is still an ongoing court battle). However if you look at how many women and girls play sports at club, HS, college and even Pro levels and never see a dime in compensation for their commitment to the sport; when you compare that to the men… its decidedly lopsided and unfair.

Just as a point of interest Minnesota a a LEADER and Innovator in Women’s Sports. Out of the 4 Major Professional Women’s Sports Leagues Minnesota has a team in all but one and has been championship quality in all of those 3. Basketball there’s the WNBA ~ Minnesota Lynx, Hockey its the NWHL ~ Minnesota Whitecaps, Yes even 100% Full Contact Women’s Football there’s the WFA ~ Minnesota Vixen, and then if you like European football … or Soccer there is NWSL we don’t have a team here yet but with a brand new stadium and a strong soccer following for the Men’s team the MN United… I’ve got my fingers crossed!

The YES Men … and Why I say NO Sir.

The YES Men are led by two gentlemen who utilize organized chaos to disrupt, discredit or otherwise disarm seemingly untouchable organizations that covet stock holder approval and profits above all else. In the age of social media, the platform of choice is clear … the information super highway. They have perfected the art of impersonation, creating fake web sites, spreading false rumors and making fictional press releases; all in the name of making waves for those they feel have wronged “the people” in some way. Those waves have come in the forms of white caps to tsunamis for those in the YES Men’s cross hairs. This all seems like a noble cause and quality entertainment, I don’t disagree with this, not on the surface.

On their Website the first thing you see is a very patriotic looking bird creature. (Not quite an eagle, see below.) Immediately for me I feel like it is a Right-wing propaganda satirical website that is going to be calling me a snowflake in the first click of the mouse. It is very misleading. After much digging, video watching and combing through of their archives it is discovered that provoking that form of knee jerk response from their readers is probably a bonus inside joke that they get to share around the water cooler every time they get a new click on their site. I am not a fan of being the butt of a joke, but whatever, I can get over it if these guys are trying to dupe billionaire con artists out of their ill-gotten gains, even if it is just a fraction of their coins … we’ll take what we can get.

What the heck is this thing anyway?

I am not a fan of the political satire, fake news or “using humor and trickery to expose the truth” for a one big reason … it has gotten out of control. There was a certain amount of credibility to the news at one time; there was a code of ethics behind the business. Satire was a whole separate business, MAD magazine never tried to pass itself off as real news. Now in the age of social media there is no control, anyone can say anything and pass it off as whatever they want. It has gotten to the point that it isn’t just the uneducated individuals that are being fooled by fake news anymore. People in power are science deniers because they read online somewhere that climate change was a hoax. When poking fun confuses to the point that people stop paying attention you have become part of the problem. I understand that they think they are getting back at these “monsters of capitalist America” in the only way they think hurts them IN THE WALLET and they are probably right that it can take them down a peg temporarily. However, if nature has taught us anything you can only poke a bear so many times before you get mauled no matter how noble your cause. These elitists believe themselves to be above the law of the land and the system is designed to support that behavior so two dudes from the web, poking fun and making waves might find themselves out either in the surf without a board to ride or in the woods running from the bear that just wont take one more Poke. Good luck either way boys. I’ll be over here trying to actually do something constructive.

Navigating Gender Identity in a Post-Pronoun Apocalypse.

Why should we care what people want to be addressed as? Why do people care how they are addressed? Why is this suddenly such a big deal?

These are all very deeply personal questions and have significantly different answers depending on who you talk to. If you have never questioned your role in the world regarding your gender then it may seem like people are making a mountain out of a mole hill. But if you personally have, or know someone close to you that as been affected by the feeling of not fitting in your role or body, then the questions start to become more understandable.

If I walked up to a very masculine man on the street and said “Excuse me Ma’am” chances are he would be at the very least confused and at worst seriously offended. Or if I am discussing a woman who is clearly feminine by saying “he and his”, this not only causes confusion but makes us question what our eyes are seeing. People are people, we all look different, act different and fill our roles in society differently. Society is the one that dictates what those roles should look like, not NATURE.

The idea of rebelling against gender roles in the US is not new. Girls have played with trucks and boys with dolls since the beginning of time, it is how these children were treated by the adults in their lives that has made the definitions required in our society. It is perfectly natural for children to play in order to find their place in this world. The colors that society has assigned to each sex, the ideas that boys are strong, and girls are delicate, and the belief that masculine and feminine should be a zero sum argument is outdated and damaging our society as a whole.

If someone tells you their pronouns, just use them as requested. You don’t need to overthink it, you don’t have to match body parts with words. If you identify as a woman and your preferred pronouns are she/her then you wouldn’t want someone to call you he/his; so that logic follows that you should respect others wishes simply for that reason alone. It isn’t rocket science.



Gender Non-conforming



Discussion from our Week off last month.

One of the lessons that I can take away from the TEDTalk with Alexis Ohanian regarding the work we are producing for Merrick is “it’s OK to not take yourself so seriously”. I believe that with Merrick providing a much-needed service for many suffering from a crisis in their lives, the act of asking for help can come with a lot of heavy baggage and negative stigmas. How you treat people at the very beginning of an interaction can often dictate their acceptance or rejection of the help you are offering. I think humor and honesty can defuse many uncomfortable situations and can set up a more positive interaction. Obviously, humor can be over used and can make a situation all that more uncomfortable, so finding a balance is super important.

The petition I chose was Reauthorize the Violence Against Women Act. The VAWA provides victims of domestic abuse the ability to obtain restraining orders which enables Law Enforcement personnel to be able to act immediately to arrest the individual(s) that are named on that protection order. This is crucial in ensuring the safety of the person being victimized, without it they are often left alone with their assailant with no legal recourse.    The VAWA — which provides critical services to women across the country — continues to be *temporarily* renewed at each spending bill deadline, but Congress still has not fully reauthorized the bill.

#ViolenceAgainstWomenAct is the hashtag on twitter. Rep.Katie Porter (D-CA) is one of the many taking the fight to the House. The Majority Leader of the U.S. House of Representatives, Steny Hoyer is also active on Twitter and prompting the reauthorization of the VAWA.  


MAR 15, 2019 —

Yesterday, the House Judiciary Committee voted along party lines to approve a reauthorization of the VAWA (finally!)

– Why do the networked social movements of the digital age represent a new species of social movement? What are some of the differences on display in these new types of social movements mentioned in the chapter?

“Historically, social movements have been dependent on the existence of specific communication mechanisms: rumors, sermons, pamphlets, and manifestos, spread from person to person, from the pulpit, from the press or by whatever means of communication were available.”

This illustrates a time when taking a stand was a very personal and physical thing. To have your voice heard you first had to step into the roles who mass groups of people listen to. If you were a passionate person but not fond of speaking in public say you would have to take a slower approach such as the pamphlets but in doing so you loose credibility. In modern times, with the advent of social media the power of words in print, coupled with photos and video, has more power to persuade and can be done in the comfort of your own home. Where before the audience and pool of where one could obtain said audience was limited to who you could reach within your own neighborhoods and local governments; now the message can be spread worldwide and gain momentum and support much quicker. Boots on the ground is replaced with fingers on the keyboard.

Dog Massage: Yes its a Thing!

Melody enjoying some Mindful Rubs

Benefits of PetMassage™ for Dogs

Everyone who shares their life with a dog knows the joy and pleasure of touching, petting, scratching and especially massaging their pet. PetMassage™ is a system of canine massage that incorporates many of the techniques used by professional massage therapists, animal trainers and handlers, and animal behaviorists.

Competition dogs, such as agility and flyball athletes have been getting canine massage for years to keep in prime condition. Marathon runners know the value of warm up and cool-down massage for themselves. They now consider the needs of their canine running partners, making sure that their dogs also stretch and warm up their muscles with massage.

More and more veterinarians are including massage as part of rehabilitation programs. PetMassage™ is not “alternative” therapy. PetMassage™ is “complementary,” and integrates readily with all forms of canine healthcare.

~ Enhances bonding in newly adopted dogs
~ Increases circulation
~ Increases flexibility
~ Develops and maintains muscles tone
~ Helps relieve the effects of stiffness and joint discomfort
~ Helps dogs rehabilitate after surgeries and other traumas
~ Helps dogs and their owners with end of life care, “Transitions”

Founder and Instructor, Jonathan with Class at PetMassage Training & Research Institute in Ohio
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