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This is a topic on my mind most days. It crosses all aspects of my life; work, college, family and recreational. I often wonder if people know what it means to be punctual or not. Is punctuality a thing of the past?

As far back as I can remember, I have always been someone who is early. I would sit at the end of the driveway waiting for the bus; while my siblings ran down the driveway just as he bus driver started to leave. I have always arrived at work twenty minutes early. If I tell you we are leaving at noon, you better be ready by 11:45.


I had a friend who’s family was always late. They would try to trick themselves into being on time. They would set their clocks early. They had so many clocks in that house and not a single clock was the correct time. I look back and wonder how they thought this would work? They had no concept of the actual time. It never worked, they were always late.

I have always felt that being punctual shows your respect for others. Being late is a selfish act, for it puts your needs above another’s. You want an extra minute to do what you’d like, but in gaining that minute for yourself, you take a minute from another.

For example, showing up late for work. Depending on your job someone else may have to stay late to cover until you get there. Why is your time more important than theirs? At my work there are several co-workers who feel it is acceptable to be 3-15 minutes late every day, yet they are the first ones out the door. Several times they will all be late and we will have someone waiting at the door. To me that shows no respect for their clients time, who arrived when the office was supposed to be open. Showing up late for an appointment puts everyone else’s appointment off schedule.


The importance of Punctuality is something I feel strongly about (even if the blog is “The art of being a MAN” title could be taken as sexist.. punctuality knows no gender). Maybe I am wasting my time always waiting for others. I could be sleeping in, getting coffee and filling my own needs instead of waiting on others.

“The habit of being prompt once formed extends to everything — meeting friends, paying debts, going to church, reaching and leaving place of business, keeping promises, retiring at night and rising in the morning, going to the lecture and town-meeting, and, indeed, to every relation and act, however trivial it may seem to observers.” –William Makepeace Thayer, Tact and Grit, 1882

I personally have anxiety and the thought of walking into a room late gives me anxiety just thinking of it. I couldn’t imagine showing up late for work regularly and trying to explain to my supervisor why. I realize not everyone has this same issue and that sometimes things happen outside of our control. But this is exactly why I would never be late just because I couldn’t find my shoes, had to stop for gas or needed a breakfast sandwich. All of those things should have been planned and figured into the morning routine.


I thought I would ask people about their time habits. I received a series of responses which I found interesting. Some said it depends on the activity. If they pay for the activity, such as class they do not feel obligated to show up on time; however if they are getting paid to be there, such as work, they will be on time. If it is a family obligation it depends on the relationship they have with the person. Many said they just struggle with getting up in the morning. I followed up with a question regarding evening activities and their punctuality. They generally said they were late to those as well. So, that clearly has nothing to do with waking up late.

I found this blog on point with my time struggles with my husbands family. His family is always late and after 20 years, I have not figured out what time to show up for their events. Once we arrived before they even got there. We literally were in their driveway at the exact time they said to arrive and they were not home. We waited another thirty minutes for the host to showed up. WHAT!! We were not even early, just on time.

Each culture has their own norms toward time. It is not the same in each culture. Many cultures value the human connection over time. In those cultures it is more rude to end a conversation to get somewhere on time than to be late. They value time with people higher than punctuality. Read more about other cultures and their view of time here.


As we all look to graduation and starting our careers, I encourage everyone to think about the importance of being punctual. Punctuality is something our future supervisors are looking for. Being on time can represent a lot about you. It shows responsibility, integrity, care, respect,

You live where? WHY?

I seem to get this question a lot while attending Metropolitan State University. It used to catch me off guard. Not the first part of the question, this seemed friendly and natural. But the second half, when they ask why I choose to live where I do. So I thought I would discuss a few reasons why I choose to live in a small town, 54 miles north of Metropolitan State University.

I was born in the same small town that I currently live in. This seems odd to some people. The funny part is, the tiny little hospital I was born in is literally three houses down from the house I live in. While many high school classmates couldn’t wait to get out of the small town, I knew I would be back. This small town is where my family is. It is where all my childhood memories are. It is where I feel comfortable. Yes I want to travel and see other places, but I wouldn’t want to call any other place home.

I love silence. I crave silence. My soul needs silence. I love to hear the leaves, trees and fields blowing in the wind. The sound of wildlife heal my anxiety. Sitting in my yard hearing nothing but the sounds of nature, is the most theraputic feeling. We have a creek running in our backyard. Wildlife such as deer, bears, foxes, geese, sandhill cranes and eagles share my backyard.

I wake before most people even ponder getting up. I enjoy this time to gather my thoughts, reflect and prepare for the day. To watch the sunrise over a field or see the sun rays beam through the trees is something that energizes me daily. Ending my hectic busy day by watching that same sun turn a dozen shades in the sky and create a picture that is worth remembering is something that I will never get sick of.

In the country you can look up and see the stars. I can lay outside for hours in the summer just staring up at the sky. I am five minutes from St. Croix river or Snake River and and five minutes from Rush Lake or Cross Lake in Pine City.

St. Croix river is one of our favorite rivers to tube down.

Rush City may not be what most people would think of as a place to call home, but it certainly is for me. There may not be a dozen restaurants, movie theater or much to do, but that is exactly what makes it home. I am 30-60 minutes away from just about anything I might need from a big city. But more importantly I do not feel the need to be entertained by any of those.

So, many may find peace and happiness in the city lights and culture, but the quiet scene of a river is what is my peace. I typically want to ask people why they live in a larger city, but I don’t. I know everyone has their reasons and we all need different things from our surroundings. But for me silence and nature is what I need.

Find your peaceful place

Burn Pits

Growing up in a small town you become close friends with just about everyone in your school. We had 125 in our graduating class. We all became a close group of friends. When your friend joins the military you worry, you cry, but then you become amazed and proud at all they do.

My friend Amie was one of the most amazing people I know. She had a heart of gold, best mother, friend wife anyone knows. She always put her county and others before herself.

Amie did 2 tours in Iraq during her time as an airman. She loved her role in the military. She spent her time in the states continueing to support her fellow vets by serving at funerals and filming their funerals.

She had a passion for veterans rights and made sure every chance she had she let our representatives know. She was a frequent visitor to many in MN. Amie knew she always needed both sides to make things move. She was an advocate for bi-partisen work.

What Amie didn’t know was she was dieing. The Iraq war took my dear friend, mother, wife and Minnesota Air National guard tech Sgt. It just took a decade to do it.

You see, during those tours, she was stationed near burn pits. Years of breathing in the toxic fumes had taken her life. Amie began getting sick. She saw doctor fter doctor, they diagnosed just about everything they could. But nothing helped. She was getting sicker each year.

Amie was frustrated with the circles she was running with the VA. She knew something was wrong. Six years later she got the horrible news. She had stage 4 pancreatic cancer. They gave her 3 months. Well Amie knew she needed to save her fellow military families. So she did was Aimee did. She called her senator. Amy Klobochar was there to fight for Amie. She came to her house, even visited her in the hospital. Amie fought until her last day on this Earth. She said she had to, she had to save others. Amie fought hard and had 9 months after her diagnosis, again showing her strength.

She had all the information and knew those burn pits robbed her of her life. They took her kids mother from them. Her husband would be a widower, raising their children alone.

Because of Amie, the fight goes on to protect veterans from burn pits. The hard work she did documenting her story has been a driving force the in the fight.

Burn Pits documentary was created and featured her story. Local and national news picked it up. Her husband started the Amie Muller Foundation to help continue the research. This bill will help prevent these burn pits and get veterans the help they need

Her husband Brian recently got the best news! Amy Klobucher had gotten the bill passed!! This bill will help prevent these burn pits and get veterans the help they need.

The fight is not over and there is so much more to do. But this month we all celebrate and know that Amie’s death will hopefully save hundreds. Maybe they will get the help with early screening. Amie’s doctors said had she been diagnosed earlier, she would have had a chance.


No one fights alone has become the team Amie way. Living life with a purpose and sharing her story is how we all can help. Use your voice this November and vote. We all have a little fight in us, use it for something good. Use it in the voting poles.

The Amie Muller foundation host events to raise money for research and Code Purple Now As well as a time to remember our amazing dear friend.

Read more about the Burn Pits and Amie’s story.

Blog post #4


Many of us have been hearing, reading and seeing FAKE news and FAKE websites are all over. We have all seen them, clicked on them or maybe even shared them. If you had any type of social media during the last presidential election you saw plenty. Facebook was beginning to look like a “He said” “She said” battleground. It caused friends, co-workers and families to take sides.


We hate to admit that we might have believed them. I can say I was beginning to worry when my husband would always blurt out “GUESS WHAT?” Then, he would say something that I hoped when he heard himself say it out loud he would know it wasn’t true. He usually still believed it. The funniest one and one I can tease him about was when he was convinced sure the Aaron Rogers was died. It took me the rest of the hour long car ride to get him off the subject.

When thinking about what website to write about I came across I had not seen this site before so I thought I would check it out. It had all the crazy headlines we see on fake news sites (or the old school fake news National Enquirer ). I clicked on a headline to see what the story was about.

Pope Criminalizes the Reporting of Sex Crimes seems like a factual title right? Then I notice these buttons SHOW FACTS and HIDE FACTS when I click on them it highlights the facts. This particular article has 3.5 full factual sentences. Most articles on this site have the catchy headlines that get people to click and read it. But how many people read just that headline and believe exactly what it says.

So are the articles on real? Do they add value to the conversation? Or do they distract people from the truth? Reading through a few they are nothing more then a comical distraction from reality. Here are a few good quotes from this site.

The Union of Alaskan Prostitutes, an organization dedicated to offering physical protection and legal representation to the working girls of Alaska, agrees with its former half-term governor completely. In accordance with their position on the apparent liberal, corporate war on Christmas in America, the Union has decided to offer a 50% discount to all Republicans as a way of supporting their fight against the destruction of the holiest of Christian holidays.”

““ISIS’s inevitable takeover of the NFL is a horrific vision. Burqas provide no head or body protection whatsoever. And by dressing all teams identically, ISIS will make it extremely difficult for NFL players to distinguish between their team members and opponents. How we will determine the true winner of this year’s Superbowl!” Mr. Poe added.”

FBI Unintentionally Turns Training Video into Hilarious Must See Travel Video

So, the next time you click on a catchy headline ask yourself. Did Aaron Rogers die?

Instagram fake news


Blog post # 3

Supreme Court of the United States

Established by the United States Constitution, the Supreme Court began to take shape with the passage of the Judiciary Act of 1789 and had its first assembly in 1790. The Supreme Court is the final judge in all cases involving laws of Congress, and the highest law of all — the Constitution.

“The judicial Power of the United States, shall be vested in one Supreme Court, and in such inferior Courts as the Congress may from time to time ordain and establish.”

– Article III, Section 1, United States Constitution

The Supreme court is what our country is built on. Cases that make their way all the way up to the Supreme court shape the laws we must all follow. The Supreme Court plays a very important role in our constitutional system of government. First, as the highest court in the land, it is the court of last resort for those looking for justice. Second, due to its power of judicial review, it plays an essential role in ensuring that each branch of government recognizes the limits of its own power. Third, it protects civil rights and liberties by striking down laws that violate the Constitution. Finally, it sets appropriate limits on democratic government by ensuring that popular majorities cannot pass laws that harm and/or take undue advantage of unpopular minorities. It serves to ensure that the changing views of a majority do not undermine the fundamental values common to all Americans, i.e., freedom of speech, freedom of religion, and due process of


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USA Today list the top 21 Supreme Court Cases you can see some votes were unanimous and some are very close. These cases have divided our country and brought our country together. Cases are heard on a number of items. Race, voting, marriage, marijuana, education, health insurance, slavery and so much more.

Supreme Court Judges hold highest power in our country. So why would we want someone who doesn’t hold our countries laws, morals or values high? We are in a historical time in America. We have an opening on the Supreme Court and it is a controversy like not other in American history.

The sexual misconduct allegations against Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh date back to his high school and college years — decades ago. There have been several female’s to come forward and say they have had encounters with Kavanaugh that show he should not be on the highest court.

Suddenly it is a he said/she said case. How long is “too long” to be sexually assaulted and come forward?

A “#Why I didn’t Report” movement is being backed my both male and female victims of sexual violence after President Trump questioned the length of time from one accuser. Seven out of 10 victims of sexual assault do not go to authorities.

One google search and you can see both sides posting their opinions. News media coverage on both sides. Each side claiming fake news reports. Blue vs Red. Liberal vs Conservative. We all see the battles. CNN vs FOXNEWS. Each website has their own agenda and projects their own version of the same situation. What can anyone believe anymore? We are so quick to judge, so quick to talk, not a quick to listen and hear the other side. We have an obligation to research and sift through the information out there.


I ask you a question.

Is this about IF he did this?


Is this about the morals and values of a position on the highest court in the US?

What have we become that we are so angry and unable to look at the real question here? What standards do we have for the judges on the highest court in the US?

Interested in our Supreme Court Case History?

Read the cases that have made their way to the Supreme Court. Do these court cases affect you? Do you want someone in our court system that can change these decisions? What rights do you value? What rights are you willing to loose just to stand by a political party that would not stand by you?

Marbury v. Madison, 1803 (4-0 decision)

Established the Supreme Court’s power of judicial review over Congress.

Dred Scott v. Sandford, 1857 (7-2 decision)

Denied citizenship to African American slaves.

Plessy v. Ferguson, 1896 (7-1 decision)

Upheld “separate but equal” segregation laws in states.

Brown v. Board of Education, 1954 (9-0 decision)

Separating black and white students in public schools is unconstitutional.

Gideon v. Wainwright, 1963 (9-0 decision)

Criminal defendants have a right to an attorney even if they cannot afford one.

Miranda v. Arizona, 1966 (5-4 decision)

Prisoners must be advised of their rights before being questioned by police.

Roe v. Wade, 1973 (7-2 decision)

Women have a constitutional right to an abortion during the first two trimesters.

United States v. Nixon, 1974 (8-0 decision)

President cannot use executive privilege to withhold evidence from criminal trial.

Bush v. Gore, 2000 (5-4 decision)

No recount of the 2000 presidential election was feasible in a reasonable time period.

District of Columbia v. Heller, 2008 (5-4 decision)

Citizens have a right to possess firearms at home for self-defense.

United States v. Windsor, 2013 (5-4 decision)

Federal government must provide benefits to legally married same-sex couples.

Obergefell v. Hodges, 2015 (5-4 decision)

Same-sex marriage is legalized across all 50 states.

Blog post # 2

Distracted Driving

What Is Distracted Driving?

There are 3,287 deaths each day due to fatal car crashes. On average, 9 of these fatalities are related to distracted driving.

Distracted driving is any activity that takes the drivers attention away from driving, including talking or texting on your phone, eating and drinking, talking to people in your vehicle, fiddling with the stereo, entertainment or navigation system- anything that takes your attention away from the task of safe driving.
I can say honestly I have been guilty of looking at a cell phone, reaching down to grab something while driving, or changing my radio station. That buzz of your phone. The sound is tempting to do a quick glance down to read who it is. But is it worth it? In just a few seconds while you are looking at your phone, you could be changing not only your life, but others as well.
Something changed for me three years ago. My son got his license! I spent more time in the passenger seat. I started to observe other drivers more in that seat. Just a month ago my daughter got her permit, again I was forced to observe other drivers habits. As a mother I fear every time my kids get behind the wheel. Not because of their actions, but because of the actions of others on the road.
Put your phone down and drive article in the Duluth News Tribune was a good reminder of this dangerous epidemic on our roads. Texting-the most common cause of distracted driving accidents-is fast becoming the new drunk driving.

In 2015, the most recent year for which there are U.S. Department of Transportation statistics, distracted-driving crashes caused 3,500 fatalities and close to 400,000 injuries.

Have the Conversation

I have had the conversation with my kids. I have put away my cell phone while driving. But what about when I am not in the car with them? Will their phone be out? Will they notice the guy next to him on his and drive safe around him?

Do your part and please put your phone away.

Kare 11 Eyes Up campaign is growing awareness with teens and adults. I took the pledge and I encourage everyone to take the pledge.



Good morning fellow classmates. With a large topic of interest I will mention a few items.

I enjoy watching sports, but not football. I enjoy hockey and volleyball live or on tv. I spend most of my non-work hours in a gym cheering on my kids or in an ice arena.

I also enjoy being outside in nature, camping, hiking and exploring. As a family we try to go camping as often as possible. One location that I have on my bucket list is visiting the Redwoods. Hopefully soon we will plan a trip!

Topics I typically will avoid engaging in conversation with are religion and politics; however enjoy learning about them on my own. I find most people are very passionate about these topics which adds a lot of personal feelings and can be heated debates all too quickly.