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Workplace Complainers

Do you have that one person in your office that constantly complains about the job, the people, the process, the day, the weather, or the fact that someone just complained to THEM? Is this striking a nerve? In my 25 years of employment in the “real world” I have often encountered people that rarely have a positive word to share in conversation. Unfortunately, I am the person who thinks I can have a positive affect on these personality types and, at times, wear myself out trying to change them.

I recently read a blog titled: How to Handle Chronic Complainers that listed all the efforts I ever attempted in making a difference in a chronic complainer’s life. When reading the article, I almost lost all hope! The list goes on about all the things that DON’T work!  Cheering them up, suggesting solutions, ignoring the or complaining right along with them. These are things I’ve tried and tried only to fail and wonder if I am the problem! Why are these people drawn to ME!?

But, there is a glimmer of hope offered by the blogger. A trick that DOES work. When a person complains to you or sheds a negative light on something, you can respond with something like, “You know, that sounds terrible. I don’t know how you deal with all of these problems.” This wording, in a sincere fashion, is what I have been searching for in my 25 years of work. Sincerely let the person know you are sorry things are so bad, that you understand the trials and acknowledging that you hear them. This statement doesn’t mean you agree with their point, or are siding with them on their negative approach.

Words of Wisdom from Mother Theresa

Mother Theresa once said,“Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.” If we could implement this into our daily lives, how would that affect those that we interact with on a daily basis? If only we could embrace joy and contentment over anger and jealousy. I know, it is easier said than done, especially for the chronic complainer. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want people to be fake at work. But, there is a difference between venting to a co-worker, seeking advice and living out life with those you spend a great deal of time with and bringing people down, asking for advice that you really aren’t going to follow anyway and trying to make a contest out of who has it worse.

This makes me think of Kristen Wiig as Penelope trying to “one up” everyone on everything.  Kristen Wiig/Group Therapy   AAAHHHH!  Maybe if the people in these sketches were to use the tip suggested by Alexander Kjerulf in his Chronic Complainer blog, Penelope wouldn’t be able to come back with her famous “one-upping” comments.

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What am I asking for?

My hope is that when we come to work we would try to focus on the good things about our job, co-workers, boss and company. Maybe just enough to not drag others down with you. If you want to tell me about an occasional incident or share something about your day, I’m all in. But, if you’re going to take my precious work time, in which I have a LOT to do, to complain for the sake of complaining, then I would rather you blog about it. I’ll read it when I get to it.

 

 

 

 

To Heal and Be Healed

If I blogged about the healing work I’ve encountered, what would it look like?
Meet Hayley!  She is a Shiatsu Practitioner and Massage Therapist working on a client in a massage chair at the Healing Elements Opening Party.

Meet Hayley! She's a Shiatsu Practitioner and Massage Therapist. #healandbehealed

A photo posted by Elise Pedersen (@moped79) on May 17, 2016 at 5:26pm PDT

What do people think Massage is?

Massage and bodywork seems to be really misunderstood. It’s really been around for centuries and always called something new with different standards of practice. Now, it’s misunderstood partially because people don’t know what to expect and because people don’t ask enough questions.  One of the most common phrases I’ll hear at a chair massage event is “I’ve never had a massage before.” I’ll just tell them that once they try this they’ll come back for more. The chair just doesn’t get it done like the work that’s accomplished on the massage table. But it’s a great way to meet new potential clients and answer their important questions.

Capitalism for a Cause

There are many websites out there that are looking to raise money for one cause or another.  They ask you to donate, email, send cards…just help them out.  But, there is a new form of raising money that I really appreciate and support – Capitalism for a Cause.

There are for-profit companies that have started up for the premise of raising money.  Some of them partner with non-profit organizations.  Others have their own donations that they make, straight from the company.

We, as consumers, purchase products.  A portion of that money we spend goes directly to a ’cause’.  Sometimes, it’s intentionally because we support what they are doing.  But, it may also be because we like what they’re selling.

For example, the company WeWood makes wooden watches.  And, for each watch that is purchased, they plant a tree.  They also work with sustainability and all watches are created with no toxic or artificial material.

There is also Tom’s shoes.  Great shoes, by the way!  But, for each pair purchased, they donate a pair of shoes to a child in need.

At FEED Projects, their goal is to feed the world.  They build their donations into the cost of the product that consumers purchase.  They fight hunger and malnutrition here in the United States and around the world.

But, perhaps one of my favorites is Sevenly.  Every week, for seven days, they choose a charity, design a t-shirt/tank top/hoodie and sell it.  Just for seven days.  For each item sold, they give $7.00 to that charity.  It is so simple.  To date, they have raised over half a million dollars for various charities and they have only been around for a year and a half.

We can sometime be surprised at what is available to purchase that will help to save the world.  No matter how small our individual efforts, when combined, they can make a huge impact.  And, how fun is a watch made out of wood???